As a dating or engaged couple, conversation probably comes easily. The two of you enjoy talking about just anything. Just about anything that is, except ugly disagreements.
It doesn’t change much in marriage except there are more things to disagree about. You can’t run away from prickly conversations — for long. If anything, marriage accentuates the mild differences you have while dating. They can become serious disagreements once the initial excitement of new love becomes the comfort of secure love.
Before you marry, consider “must have conversations” on these topics:
• Conflict-resolution skills
You’ve probably already talked about most of these topics — at least to some degree. Great! That should confirm your decision to marry.
But don’t avoid topics that might be sensitive. This is the time to face difficult conversations and make sure you are on the same page. You don’t have to agree on everything, just the important things. Use your time of courtship and engagement to explore the serious and controversial issues that are ahead of you. A marriage preparation program will help you to address these issues more thoroughly.
You may come to an impasse on an issue. That doesn’t mean you aren’t meant for each other. It does mean you should pause and study this issue more carefully.
Perhaps it’s a sign you need to consult others with experience or expertise in the area.
— From foryourmarriage.org
U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops